Misc Thougts
If you want to know what makes marriages work and what makes them fail, don't go to John Gray, he just makes stuff up. Look up John Gottman he has done countless studies in couples and their interactions with each other. Two separate people have told me this now. One has a PhD in the area of psychology and human development and teaches foster care classes in Utah. The other is a professor and family life specialist for the University of Arkansas.
It turns out that when a couple fight and start to become corrosive, they follow a very predictable path. But when they support each other, then they build each other up in a very creative way and it's impossible to predict what they will do next.